SAY IT AND MEAN IT

Expressions of emotions are must. are we all not human beings??god has given us mouth to speak, to express ourselves. But what we actually do with tht mouth....hurt....eat fast foods....speak slangs....but when it comes to expression we are silent. expressing does not only means saying something which hurt others. It actually means what you are feeling...if you feel bad about anything then say it in such a manner which actually makes other person realize you felt bad without hurting him/her. that outburst of emotions actually heals. If you hurt then the pain which was there within you which you really wanted to express combines with other pain of guilt of hurting the person. We need to think so much...no????actually when it comes to us we feel bad for the way other person says/ hurt but do we realize the same when we say in the same fashion.yours is outburst of emotions and for other it is misbehaviour for the same situation. There are actually very few people who'll actually understand you. everyone is different and so everyone has different way of thinking. this fact is the most bitter fact to accept because this is the only reason for the differences. people who understand you becomes dearest in your life and prople who do not understand you becomes really difficut to get alongwith. irony is when you have to spend your life with such a person who do not actually take sthe pain to understand what's actually wrong??/why things are not working and how to sort it out. boyfriends/girlfriends come n go...parents come n go but life partner whom you actually take the vow to spend your life with infront of god becomes a pain in your neck when both are different personalities and do not accept the way they are. We are funny people. for friends we accept the differences...we say he is like this, she is like this but then too eat and enjoy with thm. but wen it comes to your counterpart you say the same line in a different tone and actually you feel life has beome hell for you. you want the person to be the one you have an image of. but why????we all are liek this...we wait for the other person to change and when we are not finding the change other we take a step or we go with the flow without any emotions for the person who promised to share your everything with them. marriages are made in heaven......it is said but why??? why do we compromise...why we are not the actual we....why we dont accept the other person the way they are...it applies to me...it applies to everyone.....let the change come in th person automaticalllyy....instead of instilling the change by compulsion...ie by getting angey/by spoiling the mood/or by any other negative means...why not tell the person that this is what bothers and wait for them to change on this part...if its not happening talk to them in a mature fashion....if it really becomes out of your nerve to accept then acceptable to take a step because that shows the other person does not respect you. but stopping the other person for something should be something ona logical front....sometimes we become illogical we try to bring change in th person for something very illogical..talk it out and explain why thz illogiacl in mature fashion. actually communication and maturity is the key. if anyone lacks any of them then things wont run smoothly and dealing with such a situation is a task in itself but its a challenge to for a mature patner to deal with the other person amicably although he/she is lacks maturity. its difficult but not impossible. but these days in stressful life we all want ease. whetehr its job/relationships/watver. we all look for convenience. taking pains ares omething we want to avoid. so there are so many ifs and buts but actual winner is the one who actually deals with the things without cribbing and making the most out of the situation in a positive way. we need to grow with time.....all the people around you might not be growing but there are some who have already grown leaps and bounds and some are on still growing.....growth is inevitable otherwise life stops.

what an idea!!!

Todays ET has an article 'the globe is your canvas'. true......it will be for us as we paint it. It says to day we are no longer citizens of a country, if you expand your vision you will figure that you can't but help being a citizen of the world.You need to get worldwide exposure on your career and job profile.in todays exonomic times, with the global exposure we have, you have no excuse for mediocriyt anymore. there are enough resources that reason towards success, use it. get into the worldwide games, expand your horizons and your dreams, success is within veryone's reach, you need to just get in range for that.  caht and get new ideas. a whole new world opens up when you extend your communication with people in your area of business. ideas are brain food, they keep you productive, passionate and focuse.

i am impressed!!!!

I WANNA GROW

returned from kasauli yesterday. had a real gud time. after coming from there am really having a feeling of growing up. met kavita kapoor. a fun filled bold lady just like me. difference being she is older than me and really enjoys life. after meeting her i really feel like making the most of me. i also have that thing in me. so many people there were admiring me. when i didn't turn up for lunch coz had a real good fight with george then people did miss me. enquired where was i, this shows ppl did felt my absence. i really feel good when ppl give me importance. i really really want to grow. as i look up-to kavita kapoor i really want to be looked upto. want to add that thing in my life on daily basis. i know i'll have to work on it. why not start from today and realize at the end of the day what extra i did to make me feel ive grown. life will be wonderful if on my death bed i have a feel ive really lived. now i can die in peace. but the feeling of misery while dying or did not really live my life feeling while dying will really make me feel bad. this is only one life. live life to the fullest. take as much as risk you can. today i really feel good for whatever ive faced coz ive actually taken that step to feel tht whatever the result came out to be. i really feel good whatever happened with me and whatever is happening and i really really want to make each day a new chapter of my growth for whatever will happen .

stop being fake!!!

Why do we have to think so much in this journey....why can't we remain the real 'we'. I want to enjoy to the fullest. What is that stops me??? Everybody around is so busy in their daily chores that they forget that this life will end one day. god has given us one life and when the clock will stop ticking no1 knows. Then why do we behave in a fashion as if we r immortal. Spending the entire life worrying, cribbing, backbiting, cheating. Why ???? Am not among those but i find myself secluded from the crowd. george is interested only in tv and being at home. Now i'll be the original me coz . lemme see who loves me this way.....bahut seh liya...bahut ro liya.....ab koi artificial behaviour nahi chalega.......accept me the way i am.....ab change will come in its natural way and i want to grow in this natural way......artificial ban ke thak gayi hun...ab nahi hota.....kam se kam i'll feel my being......god help me in bring this change....

MAGIC OF SETTING FREE

Believe it or not.....but there is really a magic in giving space to your counterpart.We are human beings and so is possessive by nature but the degree of possessiveness varies from human to human. Some is more...some is less. But now I know the key to be happy in the relationship and that is to set free. I love george and I really want to spend my life with him. Three are some flaws in him but in this world everybody has flaws.So do I and so do he..Now this love brings itself one more thing with it and that is possessiveness. So we both are posessive for each other in one way or the other. But now the degree varies. I guess I am more. I cannot tolerate him giving imporatnce to other females. And so there were frequent fights whenever he did. But all these fights does not stop the activity. What changes is the person start doing in your absence if not in presence and i guess that is more dangerous. So i decided I'll change myself. I'll stop feeling bad and althugh if i feel bad something within I wont express. I decided to set him free. Doubts bring bad pictures in mind. the mind starts creating a very bad movie and makes u vulnerable. So I stopped thinking in those lines. All prepared for come what may.....amd guess....it worked.....the other person gives you importance...no fights. trust me now i dont think anything negative.....it might creep in future but the key is to set aside all these negative thoughts. Your and mine thinking is not going to change anything. hatever has to happen will happen. Its always good to trust your eyes....trust your instincts...jus because the other person is talking nicely to other person or giving time doesnt conclude that somethings fishy...Trust is the thing which is inevitable.I know it doesnt comes on its own. but unless and until you see it from your own eyes or the person teel you on his own dont evr doubt him. set him free and happiness will automatically set in. Thazzzzzzz my experience......its good to change for good. It will make 2 ppl happy....one you yourself and your counterpart..so be happy.