SAY IT AND MEAN IT

Expressions of emotions are must. are we all not human beings??god has given us mouth to speak, to express ourselves. But what we actually do with tht mouth....hurt....eat fast foods....speak slangs....but when it comes to expression we are silent. expressing does not only means saying something which hurt others. It actually means what you are feeling...if you feel bad about anything then say it in such a manner which actually makes other person realize you felt bad without hurting him/her. that outburst of emotions actually heals. If you hurt then the pain which was there within you which you really wanted to express combines with other pain of guilt of hurting the person. We need to think so much...no????actually when it comes to us we feel bad for the way other person says/ hurt but do we realize the same when we say in the same fashion.yours is outburst of emotions and for other it is misbehaviour for the same situation. There are actually very few people who'll actually understand you. everyone is different and so everyone has different way of thinking. this fact is the most bitter fact to accept because this is the only reason for the differences. people who understand you becomes dearest in your life and prople who do not understand you becomes really difficut to get alongwith. irony is when you have to spend your life with such a person who do not actually take sthe pain to understand what's actually wrong??/why things are not working and how to sort it out. boyfriends/girlfriends come n go...parents come n go but life partner whom you actually take the vow to spend your life with infront of god becomes a pain in your neck when both are different personalities and do not accept the way they are. We are funny people. for friends we accept the differences...we say he is like this, she is like this but then too eat and enjoy with thm. but wen it comes to your counterpart you say the same line in a different tone and actually you feel life has beome hell for you. you want the person to be the one you have an image of. but why????we all are liek this...we wait for the other person to change and when we are not finding the change other we take a step or we go with the flow without any emotions for the person who promised to share your everything with them. marriages are made in heaven......it is said but why??? why do we compromise...why we are not the actual we....why we dont accept the other person the way they are...it applies to me...it applies to everyone.....let the change come in th person automaticalllyy....instead of instilling the change by compulsion...ie by getting angey/by spoiling the mood/or by any other negative means...why not tell the person that this is what bothers and wait for them to change on this part...if its not happening talk to them in a mature fashion....if it really becomes out of your nerve to accept then acceptable to take a step because that shows the other person does not respect you. but stopping the other person for something should be something ona logical front....sometimes we become illogical we try to bring change in th person for something very illogical..talk it out and explain why thz illogiacl in mature fashion. actually communication and maturity is the key. if anyone lacks any of them then things wont run smoothly and dealing with such a situation is a task in itself but its a challenge to for a mature patner to deal with the other person amicably although he/she is lacks maturity. its difficult but not impossible. but these days in stressful life we all want ease. whetehr its job/relationships/watver. we all look for convenience. taking pains ares omething we want to avoid. so there are so many ifs and buts but actual winner is the one who actually deals with the things without cribbing and making the most out of the situation in a positive way. we need to grow with time.....all the people around you might not be growing but there are some who have already grown leaps and bounds and some are on still growing.....growth is inevitable otherwise life stops.